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As the Halloween is around the corner and most people will be celebrating the day to bring peace to the dead roaming as ghosts ( originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off roaming ghosts). Let’s take a moment to conquer the demons and ghosts shaped as fear inside us.
What is fear? – a feeling triggered by threat, danger or pain. Most of the times, as humans we tend to over-dramatize a situation and over complicate things by developing inner fear that hints at our insecurities and lack of capability to get by it. For some people, inner fears tend to develop certain complexes and personality disorders in the long-run.
When one chooses to not living with life, then he/she is living with their mind.
Your fear is always about what’s going to happen next. That means your fear is always about something which does not exist. If your fear is about the non-existent thing, then your fear is 100% imaginary. If you are suffering the non-existential, we call that insanity.
People are always suffering either from what happened yesterday or what may happen in future. So your suffering is always about that which does not exist, simply because you’re not rooted in reality, you’re always rooted in your mind. Mind is – one part of it is memory, another part of it is imagination. Both of them are in one way imagination, because both of them don’t exist right now. You’re lost in your imagination, that’s the basis of your fear. If you were rooted in reality, there would be no fear.– Sadhguru
Let’s see how we can get rid of fear by following these steps:
1. You Are What You Think
You can build confidence by thinking positively about yourself. It makes all the more reason to take control of your imagination instead of allowing it to exponentially magnetize your inner fear. When faced with deep anxiety, we tend to imagine the worst possible scenarios that may not stand true with reality. To overcome your inner fears, one can start thinking the positive results. By thinking positively, it is likely for you to develop the strength to face the situation. Don’t let your imagination get the best of you – remain positive and you are likely to stay calm.
2. Fear of Death Won’t Make Death Go Away
One must know that inner fears can only be overcome by confrontation. The possibility of dying is an inner fear that will only hold you back from living. Sensible and easy approach of confronting your fear of death is to examine the brave people around you who are preparing for their death and leaving an example behind for others to follow.
If you are not worried about dying, there is nothing in this world that you have to fear anymore.- Shiva Kumar
3. Expose Yourself to Your Fear
The best way to overcome your fear is to explore yourself and find what makes you afraid the most in phases. Take small steps to approach the thing that makes you afraid. Once, you have accomplished all these phases; then it is likely for you to overcome what you have been afraid of all along.
4. Fascinating Your Fear
Sometimes fear can be also something that can create feelings of adrenaline rush in our bodies. This is what one must aim for– become fascinated by your fear so much that you tend to enjoy experiencing it. Think about people in extreme sports. Don’t they get scared of heights, waterfalls and speed? By seeing your fear as a positive source of energy, you are more likely to embrace it and eventually overcome it.
5. It’s Okay to Be Afraid
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We must admit that sometimes being afraid is OK. Denying the inner fear is a common way of allowing it to integrate itself with your subconscious and may cause you anxiety. An inner fear develops on instances beyond your control. Feeling fearful by something is just a normal human reaction. Instead of shunning or reacting badly towards it, accept it. Acceptance is the first step of overcoming your fear.
6. Reward Yourself
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Overcoming a deep rooted inner fear implies taking baby steps towards an overall recovery from it, call for a celebration do it every time for each victory as it comes along the way. If you don’t give yourself the much needed pat on the back, the chances are that you will indirectly discourage your improvement. It is important for you to recognize your gradual recovery and reward yourself in order to completely overcome the inner fear.
7. Slow Breathing is a Useful Technique
Being faced by your innermost fear can probably cause your brain to shut down and entire body to react passively. Remember: slow breathing is the short circuit for anxiety. It helps your body to calm down regardless of what your brain is causing you to think. Try counting quickly up to 7 to clear your mind and take a breath in. Breathe out by quickly, counting up to 11 in your mind. Repeat this until you are able to calm yourself which would probably take a minute or so. This is an effective way of relaxing your mind and body to overcome the situation at hand. You can listen to music to calm your brain and ease with slow breathing.
8. Try Being Analytic
While experiencing sudden panic attack, usually brain is being over-emotional and subsiding logic. The best thing to do at this time is to use a different part of your brain and force yourself to think in a logical and analytic manner.
Try scaling your fear from 1-10 where 10 is the highest terrifying state. When you feel anxious, ask yourself what is the level of your anxiety? By questioning your state of mind, you are tending yourself towards a calmer and better state of mind.
9. Using the “AWARE” Technique
Whenever you are troubled by your inner fear, gain more control by using AWARE technique which is:
A: – accept the anxiety and your fear – you can not fight it unless you don’t recognize its presence.
W: – watch the anxiety. Then analyze it by using point 7 and 8.
A: – try “acting” normally. Although, a difficult thing for many people to do. However, the longer you act normally; the better. You will be able to provide your brain the signals of overall things to be in ideal condition.
R: – stands for repeating these steps if required.
E: – expect the best. Embracing your inner fear means that you take control of the situation and expect the outcome to be in your favor.
10. You’re Not Alone
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Many people think fear is exclusive to them. By considering that many others have gone through, or are still going through, the same type of fears, you are universally acknowledging a solution for your fear. There are many support groups for people going through similar kinds of fears. By joining such a group, you can openly discuss your fears and find a holistic approach in tackling your problem whenever it is triggered.
11. Express Yourself
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It’s recommended by psychologists that keeping a journal and documenting feelings whenever one becomes fearful helps. These journals are often a source of catharsis for people as they help in pointing out the trigger behind their inner fears. By going through the root cause of the fear, you are bettering your chances of finding a cure. There are also many online discussion forums where people vent out their feelings of anxiety and depression. The significance of expressing yourself is to help you vent out so that you are able to grab hold of the situation.
Practicing these rules from time-to-time, you are giving yourself the opportunity to hold a brave front against your fears. Remember, you are your best judge and advocate. Instead of going downhill and letting your guards down, you can practice these simple points and drive yourself to a total state of conquering your inner demons your fears.
So how do you get over your inner fear? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.